Dear Daniel

I wrote about the reasons for bullying in a previous letter. The good news is that many schools are doing something about it.

Some schools have a bullying policy, perhaps along these lines:

In schools where this sort of thing goes on bullying has been reduced dramatically. Every one feels happier and safer. Students and teachers can concentrate on enjoying what they come to school for--learning, discovery, growth, fun. And students can concentrate on working hard without having to worry about what is going to happen when recess time comes.

There is more good news. All sorts of programs are developing in Australia (and other countries) that help people who know that they are too violent and want to learn new ways of behaving.

Many of these people are men who have learnt violent behaviour from their fathers when they were young. They are ashamed and want to learn how to love their families better--so they wont't lose them. Thousands of men have learnt there is another way.

But we still have a long way to go. Although I am an optimist, I believe that probably we will never completely get rid of bullying and teasing behaviour. But, maybe, in a few hundred years time, it will be considerably reduced. Who knows...we might even learn how not to have wars and fighting altogether.

But you don't have to wait till then to know that there is something you can do about this problem now.

Daniel, if you are having a particular problem with a bully that you can't solve by yourself then you must talk to someone about it--preferrably an adult you can trust.

Please write to me again, if necessary.

Yours sincerely 

Virginia R. Claire

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